Sexuality

Question: Sexuality? I am having questions about my sexuality. Lately i have been strongly attracted to our drum major in band. We just became friends and i find myself strongly attracted to her. (She's really pretty.) i know for a fact that she is a lesbian. What should i do? Maybe i didn't quite word my question correctly. I am positive that i do like her. it is definetly more than me just admiring her looks.

Answer: only you can awnser that

Question: SEXuality!? Im bisexual, and i dnt know if i can tell my family!! My mum and my two sisters shouldent be a problem, but my mums new man probs wont like it, hes nice so he probs wont say anything to me abt it, but behind my back to my mum he probs will, but i dnt think he will change the way he is to me. My grandparents may be though. Hmmm anyone been through this before, i mean im only 16 (17 shortly - August 3rd waheey) xxx _______________NEW_____________ SORRY! But can everyone pls check out Karianna S and her comment to me, although the initail feeback was nice and helpful (in some ways - although a little too 'this is what happened to me, so it will happen to you' kind of way) She went on to comment on my grammar - now heres a point, although i am very grateful for all of your feedback (honestly i am), i didnt really need somebody reccomend that i change for them ie my grammar, seeming that the whole point about being Bi and your sexuality is not changing for anyone. So sorry if it; and i quote "offends any teachers amungst us" - but this is just the way i am. Sorry for the rave peeps, but sometimes i just dont need that sort of critasism. I've been to college thanks x

Answer: You are only young and sexuality plays a big part in growing up and finding out who you are, its important you are honest to yourself like you have been, many people hide their feelings and dont let anyone else know. If you think your family should know then tell them, some wont like it, but its the same in all situations-you cant please everyone afterall. Your mums partner will have to accept it and he most probably will if he loves your mother. You will be fine, just find the right moment and be honest to them, they love you and nothing will change that.

Question: How was sexuality a big part during the sixties counterculture? I have to write an essay about sexuality but i have no ideas about it. please help me with ideas. thank you.

Answer: It was a time of extreme drug use and experimentation, free sex and free STDs. Not a great time, for anyone but the filthy liberal progressive hippy anarchist.

Question: How can someone be wondering about their sexuality? Whats the difference between people who have to ask if they're gay or not, and those who have no doubts about their sexuality? Trying to imagine having sex with the same gender is really disturbing, if it's not disturbing to you then you must be gay. Or are there levels of gayness or something? There must be; what's up with people who need to "explore" their sexuality? How could you say they are not more gay than someone who doesn't? Or is there a difference between men and women when it comes to sexuality? I see women all the time asking these questions after having kissed a girl or something, wondering if they are gay.

Answer: I think basically there are different "levels" to being gay. For example, you could consider being bisexual one of these levels, or you could be romantically attracted to people of the same gender yet sexually attracted to people of the opposite! Honestly it really depends on the person, each is unique and has his/her own "level'. I guess you could say that people who "explore" their sexuality are trying to determine or even label which of these "levels" they belong to. They're trying to understand where they fit in, or learn things about themselves. The people who have no doubts about their sexuality are just very confident and have already learned these things. They probably had to go through the whole exploring phase to be able to know! It seems like you're trying to classify people way too much. Please understand that each individual is, well... Individual! Some people feel the need to explore, some people might already know... It really depends on each person!

Question: How are the relationships and sexuality of teens depicted in the movie Juno? How are the relationships and sexuality of teens depicted in the movie Juno?

Answer: Might want to look up a town called Glochester, MA. They recently discovered a large group of teen girls who had made a pact to each get pregnant. It was linked directly to Juno.

Question: What is a good book for a young teen female questioning her sexuality? I am currently confused regarding my sexuality. I have been in relationships with two guys. I have also been in a relationship of sorts with one girl but have never been in a serious relationship with a girl. All I at least think I understand is that there is a broad spectrum of sexuality and it is possible to fit into no particular sexuality 100 % of the way. Just curious to see what the yahoo answers crew has to say.

Answer: If you are looking for teen novels on gay girls, I'd suggest: Annie on my mind Dare, truth or promise empress of the world the bermudez triangle keeping you a secret pages for you I own these all, most of them are pretty short and interesting. They helped me come deal with my own sexuality. I found them all on amazon.com.

Question: How can a blind and deaf person determine their sexuality? Can a blind and deaf person (like Helen Keller for instance) be gay, straight or trans gendered? Are there any examples in real life? How much of sexuality is nature, and how much is nurture? If the sense of touch or other people plays a role in attachment, then does it play a role in sexuality as well?

Answer: It is not biological entirely. It has been predetermined, however one's mental and emotional conclusion of one's sexuality may not agree with that that has been assigned of spirit and flesh. I will thus break it down into "Psychological", "Physical", "Emotional", and "Spiritual" areas which may or may not be harmonious with each other. The most obvious external factor which first helps to affirm our sexuality would be the Physical factor, tangible signs of gender allocation. Nature only plays a role up till this part. After that would be the psychological factor, for example when a typical male sees a female, he mentally calculates mating possibilities and potential physical pleasures attained from such activity. Then followed by which the emotional factor comes into play. The male sees the female not just as another animal but a fellow human being. He questions whether he loves her. Finally he is affirmed by the the Spiritual factor, his faith that it is right in the matters regarding sexuality. Depending on what he places his faith in, the yardstick on sexuality will change. For example if he believes in God and that God created him as a male, and he believes that living as a male honors God, then he will choose to live as a male as his Faith tells him that it is right. Not always are all these in harmony. For blind and deaf people, I assume that the physical factors may be diminished though they still exist. To answer your question fully, I feel that the Physical factor itself does not play a major role in determining one's sexuality. Or rather, these factors are not on the same weighing scale. Ultimately, it is how one chooses to live that determines one's sexuality. If one is to live by faith, one's faith will determine one's sexuality. If one is to live by flesh, then the world will decide.

Question: What is a good book for a young teen male questioning her sexuality? I am currently confused regarding my sexuality. I have never been in a serious relationship with a girl. All I at least think I understand is that there is a broad spectrum of sexuality and it is possible to fit into no particular sexuality 100 % of the way. Just curious to see what the yahoo answers crew has to say.

Answer: Prayers for Bobby by Leroy Aarons was really helpful to me. Its also a movie if your into that. :D

Question: How bad is the nudity and the sexuality scenes in the movie splice? My dad is dragging me to the Drive-In at 11-something to see 2 movies. Jonah Hex and Splice. First of all, I HATE HORROR MOVIES. And I read it has nudity and sexuality in it. I don't wanna look up and see a close up of someones titties with my dad in the car. My question is, how BAD are the scenes in this movie? Please Answer, I would really appreciate it.

Answer: Please do NOT see this movie. There are multiple sex scenes that were absolutely horrid, and I have been scarred for life. One of the main characters has sex with this mutant thing that is like a bunch of species combined. And then the mutant thing rapes a chick. It's very graphic. and very horrible.

Question: What are some hot topics in human sexuality? I need to write a paper that can have anything to do with human sexuality. What are some good topics? I need to reference academic sources.

Answer: I think a good topic to research is that supposedly women's sexuality is more fluid than men's. Meaning, that there are a lot of women bisexuals, but very few men bisexuals. So the difference in sexuality between men and women is interesting.

Question: What is the difference between sensuality and sexuality in movie ratings? If you look at movie rating some will say they contain sensuality and some say sexuality. So what is the difference?

Answer: sensuality is less "hardcore" than sexuality and less revealing. Sensuality maybe women in tight clothes with cleavage, or a guy with his shirt of. Sexuality would be "heavy petting" and making out > leading to sexual acts. Sensuality doesn't necessarily lead to sex in a movie. You can check out the MPAA website for more explanations on their rating system.

Question: How do you apply transgendered or intersexed to sexuality? How do you apply transgender or intersexed to sexuality? In a world of variable genders and sexes, is it possible to be strictly gay/lesbian or straight? Does it reserve conditions such as external appearance as to allow for attractions to be viewed as being heterosexual or homosexual? Or is it open purely on self-identity?

Answer: I'm having some trouble understanding exactly what you're asking, but here's the best reply I have... No matter what someone's anatomical sex is, if they identify as male and are attracted to males, they're gay; if they're attracted to women, they're straight. And if they identify as women and are attracted to men, they are straight; if they're attracted to women, they're lesbian. If either one is attracted to both, then they are bisexual. If they don't care and accept people as people, then they'd be pansexual. :P Saying that someone isn't "really a man" because they were born with a vagina is pure ignorance and malice. Same for women who happened to be born with a penis. Judging their sexual orientation off that ("You're not really gay", "You're not really straight", etc) is also ignorant. How someone chooses to identify is NOT your problem. don't like it? Then ignore it and keep on walking. It's only the stupid, mean little people who decide to try and tear someone down because they think they know someone's gender and sexuality better than their victim.

Question: What do you mean by sexuality, mere Communion of a man and a woman, with a purpose of having children? Religion always wants to dominate the people's idea of what is right and wrong, even sexuality. Social norms were always THE determinant factor for what would be considered apropriate. What is your view over this such a personal and private feeling. Isn't fetishism mere variation of sexuality or homosexuality for that matter?

Answer: It's called procreation.

Question: What degree do you need to obtain to become a gender and sexuality therpist? Just curious I want to be a gender and sexuality therpist...im from Houston Tx trying to plan my future....does anyone know the degree most people get to be a gender and sexuality therpist and the steps about getting that focus and not just some random family therpist?

Answer: I would assume you would need at least a master degree in psychology, and have studied about gender and sexual issues. EDIT (SHAKES HEAD IN AMAZEMENT)

Question: What is your opinion about the origins of a person's sexuality? Do you think that babies have their sexuality information from the moment their conceived and that this information determines if they become gay, straight, or bi? Or do you think that the surroundings of people influence their sexuality and they start to develop sexual feelings toward whatever group they are attracted to at a young age? Or do you think something entirely different?

Answer: Well, since a lot of people fight being gay all their lives, it's probably not something that's learned because everything learned can be forgotten with effort. And gay people do tend to be.. I dunno, somewhat more feminine, though obviously on different levels. So I thinks its something you're born with. Actually I saw a documentary about some studies and it said something about how a woman's body tends to release something (some kind of hormone) that makes the baby gay, and its more likely to happen with the more children she has. Is that true? No idea.. But its an interesting theory.

Question: How radical were the nineteenth century alternative systems of sexuality? AND How much of a threat did they p? How radical were the nineteenth century alternative systems of sexuality? AND How much of a threat did they present to the dominant normative sexual system?

Answer: I'd be happy to answer IF I knew what in the name of God 19th Century Alternative Systems of Sexuality WAS. I know that there was 3 'Communal Experiments" that involved Religion and Sexuality. The Shakers, the Mormons, and the Oneida Community. The United Society of Believers in Christ’s Second Appearing, known as the Shakers, is a Protestant religious sect, known for their sexual equality. The Shakers never forbade marriage, but refused to recognize it as a Christian institution and considered it less perfect than the celibate state, since only celibacy could confirm sexual equality. All dead, no sex, no children, all gone. Polygamy was a defining characteristic of early Mormonism. Mormon fundamentalists believe that plural marriage where a man has more than one wife is a requirement for obtaining the Celestial kingdom. The Oneida Community was a utopian commune that practiced Communalism (in the sense of communal property and possessions), Complex Marriage, and Male Continence (moderation or self-control, especially related to sexual desire.) Complex Marriage, a form of polyamory in which more than one man and more than one woman form a family unit, with all the members of the group marriage being considered to be married to all the other members of the group marriage, and all members of the marriage share parental responsibility for any children. As with anything to do with what is precieved as non-traditional or radical when it comes to religion ....... the mainstream will NOT go for it. Also in the 1800's people barely admitted sex existed ....... let alone discuss it openly, whether medically or religously. The only threat anyone would have seen was that all this sex stuff was Satan's work and get rid of it or have nothing to do with it. So, beyond radical, Satan's work. No threat .... just a bunch of freaks they needed to stay away from.